E.E. Effiong as he’s popularly referred to, from Ikono in Akwa Ibom State labored as gross sales and advertising and marketing practitioner and insurance coverage dealer of about 40 years expertise earlier than he retired. Born in June 1943, and now retired, he nonetheless does insurance coverage brokerage on a contract foundation. His spouse, Christiana. nee Idiong, born in Atimbo, Calabar in 1952 was proprietor of the well-known Christy Fashions. A retiree of the trend business, she has, to her credit score, greater than 30 trend designers who handed by means of her tutelage and are established immediately in a number of cities throughout the nation. The duo, of Jehovah’s Witnesses, are a pair to admire. They not too long ago celebrated their golden marriage ceremony anniversary throughout which they performed host to their youngsters, grandchildren, pals and relations from far and close to. On this interview with JOE EFFIONG, in Calabar, Cross River State, they shared the secrets and techniques of what held their union collectively these previous 50 years. Excerpts:
Whereas we thank God for conserving you collectively as husband and spouse all these years, might you inform us the way you met earlier than two of you bought married
Husband: I used to be transferred by my group from Lagos to Calabar in 1969 and that’s after I met her. She was fairly busy in God’s work of evangelization and preaching of the excellent news of God’s kingdom. I appreciated that.
Was it the identical factor with you, or are there particulars you wish to add, no less than by yourself half?
Spouse: It was thrilling when he arrived on the scene in Calabar and I used to be very joyful to work with him. After all, the remainder is historical past (smiles).
Was there any opposition from anyplace, kinfolk, and pals regarding your marriage?
Husband: No, we didn’t expertise opposition from anyplace.
Spouse: No, there was no opposition in any respect.
What qualities made you select your partner above different ones inside that interval?
Husband: She had the required requirement that I regarded for in a spouse, so I had no reservations in any respect in selecting her and making my alternative identified to her.
Spouse: He was spiritually minded. He liked God and was very diligent in doing God’s work. That was a really crucial level for me.
How did you plan to her? What precisely did you say to make her settle for to marry you?
Husband: I first requested her whether or not any person had ever requested her hand in marriage, that’s, if she was in any such relationship with the intention of getting married. When she mentioned no, then I went forward to inform her my intention to marry her and take her together with me within the work I used to be doing as at then, which was circuit work (touring evangelism) and supporting the congregations throughout the circuit of oversight.
What did you say when he proposed? What precisely did he say and what was your reply?
Spouse: I accepted with out objection, particularly when he mentioned that he’ll quickly transfer to circuit work. That was fairly thrilling for me and so I had no reservations and wasted no time in accepting the proposal.
What do you bear in mind about your marriage ceremony?
Husband: Our marriage ceremony was quite simple. There have been no frills or flamboyance as seen in some weddings nowadays.
Spouse: Ours was fairly a easy occasion.
Might you bear in mind your first misunderstanding and the way you dealt with it?
Spouse: Effectively, we have now had our personal share of ups and downs, however no, I can’t bear in mind the primary one.
Husband: It has been fairly a protracted whereas, you realize.
What’s your partner’s favorite meals?
Husband: Do we actually have any favourites? No!
Spouse: We now have no favorite, no matter God offers us, we take pleasure in it equally.
And, what do you want most about him/her?
Husband: Her sincerity
Spouse: His industriousness
What areas would you prefer to see him/her enhance?
Husband: Effectively…I can say that some issues are anticipated as individuals get previous and so a few of these issues equivalent to periodic sickness and so on, have been a supply of pressure in our relationship. However we are able to’t reverse age, so we be taught to dwell with ourselves.
Spouse: As a consequence of previous age he can’t work to supply cash for the household like earlier than.
What recommendation do you give to a younger bachelor who intends to marry?
Husband: A bachelor ought to let the Bible information him. The main focus ought to be “the key particular person of the guts,” because the Bible directs, that’s the particular person’s angle and character, and never the outward look.
Spouse: Spinster, please be guided, don’t rush to males at random due to cash or different materials points of interest.
In mild of rampant divorce circumstances nowadays, based mostly in your private experiences, what items of recommendation would you need to give to newly married on how you can make their marriage final so long as your personal has lasted?
Husband: One, in case you begin your marriage at 50 years of age you’ll clock 100 years when your marriage is 50. So, begin early. Two, everytime you signal a wedding register, you signal for tolerance, endurance, love, forbearance, forgiveness, maturity to say however a few. Above all, draw near God and He’ll draw near you.
Spouse: These will certainly make your marriage final.
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